Have you ever been in a situation where you want to fulfill a dream, realize a goal, start a project… but an inner voice appears that tells you that you can’t, that you are not capable of doing it, that it is very complicated, that there is no point in starting? And finally that inner voice that paralyzes you and prevents you from acting, ends up winning?
Well, that “little voice” is the one that you have to defeat every day, that’s what we call conquering yourself.
It’s not always easy, but learning to deal with that inner voice and knowing how to weaken it is the most important negotiation you have to do throughout your life.
As long as you can’t weaken that negative inner voice (because it will always be present), it will be very, very difficult for you to succeed in business and in life.
We present you 4 tips that will help you to triumph over that negative inner voice
1. Redefine the word “WIN”:
Winning is not always having the last word or doing something more times than another person.
For example, has a driver insulted you in the middle of traffic? Do you feel good and “victorious” if you insult him more times or more aggressively?
Well, that’s what we’re talking about. When you act in this way it is that inner little voice that takes control of your thoughts and your actions, which only leave you stress and bad memories.
That is why you need to be more intelligent from an emotional point of view, since this is what really allows you to grow and act more assertively.
2. Say goodbye to your comfort zone:
Countless times we avoid getting involved in situations either because of shyness, laziness, fear, or searching for the easy way, among others.
Without realizing it, this limits us and makes us lose valuable opportunities for learning and progress.
So, if you try not to attend social gatherings because of the people you usually meet there, then attend, greet them and deal with them. If you’re afraid of making a fool of yourself, dare to and you’ll find it a pretty fun experience.
We know that this is not easy because you are capable, you are made for big challenges and the big ones do extraordinary things, if it were easy, anyone would do it.
If you are feeling discomfort, you will achieve a mirror effect, which is to be able to speak the language of your audience, whoever it may be.
If you want a better response from the person you are dealing with, send a new message.
3. Dare to know more people:
The more people you know, the more confident you will be; the more confidence and skills you will have to reach out to others in a powerful and appropriate way (non-invasive), leaving positive memories in your listeners.
Maybe you run into people you do not like at first, but as we saw, that’s where your learning is.
4. Always visualize an EXCELLENT result with whom you speak:
Do you have problems with the treatment of certain people in your personal or work life? Does it cost you to reach people? Think that the other’s behavior may be partly a reflection of your own behavior.
Also, keep in mind that this person has also been exposed to difficult situations that you do not know, could have family or economic problems, in their social or work relationships, etc. and his response is due to a badly handled emotional load.
If you show kindness, empathy, serenity and security, there is a good chance that you will receive something similar from your interlocutor.
Try to harmonize the environment, talk about common tastes, more trivial issues to relax the situation and feel more comfortable.
Do not be shipwrecked in their defects when you can navigate in their virtues. Normally you see the person you are speaking to as you are and not as he is, reflect on this.
By applying these tips together, you will grow more as a person, the little voice will be heard less and less… when you are able to modify a behavior and overcome that voice, you grow as a person, as a human being.
We are governed, to a lesser or greater degree, by that internal voice and it is up to you to detect it and defeat it whenever you can.